MrMary-ly: any questions for me ?
MrMary-ly: im a bit off my rocker …… thats my disclaimer
Shannon: Do you have an idea of what you’re going to write before you write, or do you just start typing and see where it takes you?
MrMary-ly: I see something and something comes through inspiration in my head and I work on it in my head while I work and do other stuff and when I sit down I try to transcribe whats there onto the blog or the paper for whatever I right
Shannon: You’re writing sounds very organic and unscripted. You still make your points and there’s definitely a flow, but i noticed it feels like a stream of consciousness.
MrMary-ly: yeah I have been working a lot on two poetry collevctions I want to publish this year
so its nice to let things flow and it is a help as I am unusually introspective keeps me connected to the day to day , terre a terre stuff
Shannon: Are you introverted as well? Or just introspective
MrMary-ly: yeah according to the Meyers Briggs test I am an INFP introverted and all that
Shannon: I use to know what that meant (and what I was)
MrMary-ly: you’re all kinds of cool which is all that matters really at the end of the day
Shannon: I’m extroverted, I know that for certain
MrMary-ly: yeah crowds and a lot of talking make me wilt or become spiritually flaccid
Shannon: Are you aware that you come off as very extroverted in your blog and online?
MrMary-ly: oh really ? I didnt know I think I come off as a pervert who reads a lot and self pollutes
Shannon: Hahaha, well, you got the “reach out and touch someone” vibe going. Guess that’s kind of perverted
MrMary-ly: lol Social interaction was an is sometimes difficult
Shannon: I wouldn’t never have pegged you as introverted, based on your blog and tweets.
MrMary-ly: ah I spent a lot of time looking at life from behind a glass, so if need be I can turn on charm be the talk of the town. With the people who are dear to me I probably talk too much at times
I think that was the main thought or reflection behind my post the great pretender actually every posts starts from a moment of reflection
Question 4 Interview Becomes a Convo
Shannon: Do you think your interest in women’s rights comes from being a minority in anyway?
MrMary-ly: hmm it comes from many places One my love of psychology and literature, my over production of testosterone. Ultimately I feel we spend some much time creating useless divisions between ourselves that in separating ourselves from others we effectively estrange ourselves from ourselves
MrMary-ly: Guys never think that could be my sister or mother when they do or say dumb shit. The same way people when they say racist comments even in joke dont care to imagine what it might be like for others who are hurt by that. It causes me great pain to see people suffer , especially needlessly
for petty reasons
Shannon: I think that’s why social justice is so important. I’m not religious but I definitely support the idea that each person is responsible to fight an injustice when they see it. But people get so overwhelmed because there’s so much injustice in the world. There’s so much suffering and we feel tiny compared to it all. But it’s as simple as calling the cops when you think your neighbor is beating the shit out of their dog, their kids or their spouse
MrMary-ly: I agree with you, its quite overwhelming what matters is how u walked through the fire always I feel at least
Shannon: My creed/motto is “I would rather knowingly get hurt/killed by putting myself in a dangerous situation then watch as someone else gets hurt/killed beyond their control.”
Shannon: some day I’m totally going to get punched in the face by a stranger. I know this. I’m just gonna have to be okay with it.
MrMary-ly: pain like life lasts a moment beauty/sincerity/compassion is a bit longer lasting
Shannon: It is, if we maintain it. It’s hard to remember that compassion is limitless.
MrMary-ly: yeah you’re right
Shannon: I have to remind myself of that and think “what would the most compassionate person do?” and even then, I know I’m not that person.
MrMary-ly: It require a constant reminder and attentiveness
Shannon: Ask the dude 3 blocks from my house who asks me for change 3 times a week and I always say “no”. He definitely thinks I’ve no compassion.
MrMary-ly: I think the difficulty lies in the fact that things appear outwardly differently than they may actually be hard to find meaning sometimes based on outward appearances like I can go to church every Sunday , reading from some fancy book and be an asshole to my kids and wife behind closed doors
Shannon: Good point. I sometimes wonder if my actions match my desire and goals.
MrMary-ly: I think while we all contemplate that it is good to remember that everyone is a work in progress until death time is meaningless, fuck Heideggar
Shannon: Evolving, evolving, evolving. I’m definitely smarter today then I was yesterday. I hope that trend continues.
MrMary-ly: to live is to learn to suffer is to be born again in a way it has to continue i feel whether we want it to or not
Shannon: If we suffer and we don’t learn the lesson, we’ve wasted the suffering.
MrMary-ly: yeah I have notice though that when I didn’t learn something it repeated again and again
and again till i got it and each time it was worse it took a few tries but i never was intimate again with a girl with braces
Shannon: Definitely. Even after we learn it, it sometimes get worse, because we have to learn how to deal with it on a bigger scale.
MrMary-ly: j/k yeah the scale changes each time
Shannon: Thank god I never had braces
Shannon: Also, thank my ancestors for negotiating a treaty with a dental plan.
MrMary-ly: hi five
Shannon: Take that, white settlers!
MrMary-ly: dont say that too loud there is still stuff left to take like pride and dignity
MrMary-ly: Disney for instances feeds on it and the souls of sad, flat chested girls or so I hear
Shannon: If I had to do it again, I’d definitely give up my beautiful straight teeth to get back the land and language that I lost.
MrMary-ly: really ? thats an impactful statement
Shannon: Absolutely. Fuck these teeth. I’d be toothless and give gummers and have acres and acres of lands
Shannon: And I’d speak Cree and my last name would be Badger (since the government took that too)
MrMary-ly: I’d like as a reader of your blog to read more about that aspect of your experience
Shannon: Well, it was more my father’s experience but I’m the product of it.
MrMary-ly: yeah i gotcha
Shannon: But, it’s definitely a part of Canadian (and US) history that doesn’t get talked about enough.
MrMary-ly: shame really
MrMary-ly: very rich traditions there
Shannon: One page in the history book (literally, that’s all I remember. One page in the grade 9 social studies text book)
MrMary-ly: thats sad about as sad as sex ed class in catholic school
Shannon: It’s disgraceful
MrMary-ly: a nun taught us sex ed the boys were separated from the girls
Shannon: I’ll give my schools credit where credit is due. I had some pretty awesome sex ed teachers.
MrMary-ly: i thought she must have been a whore and just been trained on for years before she took to the cloth
Shannon: hahaha…like she was going to teach you the ways?
MrMary-ly: to wipe up years of excess
Shannon: hahahaha oh my god
Shannon: Such a clever turn of phrase. Love it
MrMary-ly: thank you, I try lol
MrMary-ly: my mom one day read a part of my post and thinks I need therapy and help of a spiritual kind
Shannon: I have no idea if my mom has read my blog. I think she’d say I don’t need to swear as much to get my point across.
MrMary-ly: yeah she told me that and as a response I said girls don’t need to moan as much but its gets me to tap into my reserves. It’s not something you generally say at Applebees. Do you have that in Canada? or is Mike’s still popular
Shannon: You say whatever you want at Applesbees. We have 1 in my city but I never go cause it’s in the boonies.
MrMary-ly: ? yeah its not worth it. Everything tastes overly salty like the cook jacks off into everything
and looking at the prices it would make sense
Shannon: Maybe he does. That might actually motivate me to go to Applebees more if I knew what the cook looked/tasted like
MrMary-ly: yeah man if only Magic Johnson knew He could have had more fun before the Combivir commercials
Shannon: Never seen those commercials.
MrMary-ly: your lucky
Shannon: Haha should I try to youtube them or save myself?
MrMary-ly: save yourself not worth it
MrMary-ly: this was nice so I was able to behave
Shannon: Alright, I’ll take your word for it. I don’t watch tv (I’m trying to say that in a way that doesn’t sound pretentious but it ALWAYS sounds pretentious.
MrMary-ly: its good I don’t watch tv either it boring caters to the lowest common denominator
sort of like that ho bag nun before she got on her knees literally i suppose to