I need your help.
Since my last female friend got pregnant with her third child and moved away to Europe, I find myself without a female friend. I’ve found that it’s much more difficult to make female friends now than in college. I don’t know what happened between college and the present day. A lot has changed.
For example, certain women think saying “hello” means “I want to go deep inside of you”. It’s completely unfathomable that one would just want to talk with another human being who just so happens to have a vagina. These same women often times feel that every dude is a closeted rapist just waiting for the chance to coerce a woman into sexual situations. My favorite though is the one I heard at a bar not to long ago. It seems that drinking beers while watching a UFC pay-per-view is the precursor to taking the old Gokstad replica ship out of the garage and mount a small highly trained army to pillage the West Coast of England.
I know what many of you will say: “Not all women are like that, every man has an inner rapists inside of them, and that the Vikings would probably want to raid northern Ireland more than the West coast of England. The truth of the matter is that for all our talk about femininity and masculinity we have, I feel at least made it hard to simply befriend one another.
To be fair, on a whole I find it’s much harder to make friends now than before. It is hard to related to guys nowadays. My college and high school friends are becoming more and more important as the years go by. This quote summarizes things quite nicely
When men hit their 30s, many cling to their high school and college friends. And if these don’t last, men have a hard time forming new friendships. I’m not talking about work-out partners and neighbors you pound a few beers with while ribs are grilling, I’m talking about confidants. People who you are willing to share your innermost self to because you feel it will be valued and accepted (regardless of what evils lurk there).
I was thinking about the number of confidants I have today, versus a good 10 years ago and they are more or less the same people. The difference now is that none of them are female. So ladies I have some questions for you:
- How many confidants do you have as friends?
- Do you hang on to a core group of friends or do you continue to make new friends into your 30’s ?
- Do you find it difficult to make male friends?
- Is it even possible to have platonic male friends?