A 17-year old girl had her prom night ruined this month because a few dads chaperoning the event couldn’t keep their eyes off the girls or their minds out of the gutter. According to Clare Ettinger, some perverted fathers at the event were staring at her and talking about her. After that, a female organizer interrupted, pulled her aside and told her to leave because it was decided that her dress was causing some gross middle aged men to have “impure thoughts.” When Clare Ettinger attended the Richmond Homeshool Prom in Virginia with her boyfriend, she made sure she followed the dress code. Her dress abided by the “fingertip length” rule precisely and passed muster after being examined by a female organizer of the event. So, she walked onto the dance floor intent on having a good time with her friends. But the fun didn’t last long.
“I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives,” Clare wrote on her sister’s blog. “I’m not responsible for some perverted 45 year old dad lusting after me because I have a sparkly dress on and a big ass for a teenager. And if you think I am, then maybe you’re part of the problem… I am so tired of people who abuse their power to make women feel violated and ashamed because she has an ass, or has breasts, or has long legs.”
Religion is an innocuous tool until put in the hands of idiots. Then it’s a potent hallucinogen lifting its users away from reality to the exalted realm of unbalanced fantasy. One major tenet of Christian thought is denying the sexual impulse. Sex is something dirty and one should only engage in it for procreation. This kind of thinking resulted in legions of men and women detached from their sexuality. For these persons, suppression trumps an understanding the how, when, who and why. When we suppress vital needs they always find irascible ways of manifesting themselves.
What is a dirty thought, and Why are they bad?
Before we even get to the meat and potatoes of the issue, let’s admit that the language used to talk about this kinda thing is flawed. The idea that there are dirty thoughts and clean thoughts is part of the problem, albeit how much of a part is up for debate. We have all sorts of thoughts ranging from the extremely conservative to the extremely liberal. What matters is what thoughts we choose to act on. Contrary to what many models, celebrities and draconian government officials think, having a thought is not a crime.
While we’re a species that needs to have sex to procreate we are also endowed with a pre-frontal cortex. We possess the ability to rationalize rationalize our need to procreate or even have sex away. So with that said let us look at what went down at this prom.
making sense of things
I think if you make the choice to be a chaperone at a prom and are overcome with impure thoughts, there is something wrong.
These Christian fathers should have been thrown out. Even at 17 year old I didn’t think much about 17 year old broads. I can understand how older guys like younger women, but a 17 year old girl is hardly a woman. A 17 year old girl hasn’t developed her nagging ability. She abilities in the realm of emotional manipulation skills are now powerful enough to make an agnostic man pray for death.
Finally, a suddent twist
This was unfair to Ms Ettinger. However there is a slight twist to this story:
Another theory for why Clare was kicked out of her own prom was offered by someone who commented on the post. By viewing pictures of Clare and her boyfriend, you’ll notice that he is an African-American while she is a blond white girl. Could it be that racism played a role in how Clare was treated that night? After all, they were attending a prom for homeschooled kids in a southern state where conservative Christianity and racism collide. It’s not a leap to believe that many of the perverted fathers at the prom may have actually been objecting to a white girl dancing with a black man.
If this be the case then it was a grievous error. But it takes place in the South – the land of gravy sweating cousin fuckers as has been said It is kind of expected. I am biased, and think that race had a role to play in the complaints of these so called Christian dads. The only thing i don’t agree with is the use of patriarchy in the closing paragraph:
This massive show of support proves that sexists are outnumbered, but for some reason, conservative patriarchal chauvinists are still out there trying to hold women and girls back. Such a system no longer has a place in modern society where women are able to achieve more than being a man’s household slave or an object to be ogled. Perhaps it’s time to give patriarchy, and the sexism that comes with it, a swift kick in the balls. And if that doesn’t work, there’s always neutering.
Two things. First in my mind conservative patriarchal chauvinist is a euphemism for republican voting white guy. I wonder if a man does something that negatively affects a women is it patriarchy? I feel that patriarchy and sexism is like pollution in an ecology class; it is the answer for everything. Guy gives a lesser tip to a female waitress then it patriarchy, guy cuts a girl off at the light and it patriarchy. Dont get me wrong, I believe that the”patriarchy” and sexism are a real problem but …