DISCLAIMER: Any time sex is mentioned it elicits a lot of uncomfortable reactions in people, myself included depending on the context. My exteriorizing a thought process here is for the sake of discussion. Adult discussion!
Do restaurants like Hooters & The Tilted Kilt Degrade Women ?
A cool discussion broke out in the comment section of my last post which made me ask myself: ” do breast-aurants like Hooters degrade women?” My take on that issue is that there are different stroke for different folks, meaning (innuendo aside) that there will always some people who
- Emphatically Agree
- Emphatically Disagree
- Don’t Really Give a Fuck
- Have never really thought about it
If no one is forcing you to dance to RadioHead’s Creep in such a way as to give me an erection while I’m being lambasted with powers chords and tentative reflections that “I am a creep” or a “weirdo”, it’s not degrading. (I have a bad history with the song Creep). Discussing whether such and such activity degrades women, especially in a blog post tends to lead to the rehashing of the same tired rhetoric. This questions lead to me to ask an important question: ‘What is the earliest evidence we have of prostitution?’ That started some gears turning.
It’s my opinion we like to deny what it is we are. Hammurabi 18 centuries before Christ had laws that protected the property rights of women, inclusive of female prostitutes. Looking at how long it takes us to pass laws, prostitution has at least enjoyed a 30-20 centuries longevity. That’s staying power ! Compare that to the fact that people have been marrying for love for only 2-3 centuries more or less since the Age of the Enlightenment.
To take matters further there was such a thing as sacred prostitution; case and point the term qedesha in the Old Testament “temple prostitute” (I went to catholic school for 13 years). Another infamous yogurt-eater Herodotus, described in the 4th -5th century BC a common sexual rites that used to take place in the many shrines and temples in Mesopotamia along the the Tigris and Euphrates. [Another reason it was called the fertile crescent]. Every woman of the land had to sit in the temple of Aphrodite and have intercourse with some stranger once in her life.”
We may scoff at how dumb and or stupid this was but remember that this was before Freddie Mercury died of AIDS. Also try to recall college FRAT PARTIES and the human centipede looking collections of arms and legs disjointedly juxtaposed together you encountered on nights of Dionysian excess.
I bring this up for a reason, and once I remember it again… oh yeah.
If we look at human history we are confronted by the continued existence of what is today seemingly frowned upon behavior: cheating, buying sex in some way shape or form, or using sex to get what you want (marriage proposal). I think there is a reason for this. And if we are really open-minded, we can tease of some insight into ourselves. I am not saying offer yourself up sexually to the person at your right. For some of you living on the coast that may be impossible. I also don’t know the dolphin fucking laws in your locality.
Every person has a so called ‘dark-side’ to themselves. Unfortunately we disavow all knowledge of it’s existence. Rather than acknowledge that sometimes we desire to take things by force (or be taken by force), or that, to echo the Old Testament, we covet our neighbor’s ass (I got a thing for single moms around 27), we choose to never engage ourselves in understanding where behaviors come from. This has caused as you can imagine a lot of psychological damage in many folk.
I think understanding why we repress what we do, can help us understand “rape culture” and soap operas. That should be my next post: “Rape Culture and Soap Operas”. There are growing numbers of people so self-conscious about themselves, so unhinged by their neuroses and insecurities that they are unable to have sex, or be touched by another or even be naked in front of a person. I think you have to be pretty conflicted or blocked on some part of your personal growth to not be able to have sex.
I feel that there is a ever-widening gap in some people (chuckle) between sex and spirit. This is perfecty evidenced by those people who fuck through the hole in their pajama bottoms not even bothering to bend their knees. I’m tired, rambling and in a silly mood.
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Lemme know if I should continue writing about this, more or less flippantly