Michelle* always gives me a big smile acts nervously when I go to her register. When I went to her to pay today Michelle* gave me a giant smile. I told her if she keeps smiling like that I’ll go buy some more stuff to be in her line again. As we were going through the usual small talk I looked at her body language.
MrsMary was correct: Michelle likes me. As we were leaving MrsMary pointed out that Michelle’s next customer was another guy. He didn’t get the big smile. (I feel special). I informed Mrs Mary that I’ll be filing a complaint. I didn’t go into the pharmacy to be objectified. I came for shampoo, shaving and other things. “Can you believe the nerve of that women, imagining that I was just a body, without a personality? Smiling at me was a clear violation of my boundaries.” After saying that MrsMary look at me and said (paraphrasing) “Stop being such a fucking pussy.” We both laughed and continued onwards
Nobody should suffer objectification. It is important though that we are clear on constitutes objectification. I came across a young dude about two weeks ago who felt uncomfortable being attracted to women. Obviously he was not in touched with his masculinity. He is one of many emasculated dudes I’ve met as of late. Suppressing a natural desire and self-emasculation is not a cure to objectification. It’s another terrible problem.
As a heterosexual guy
As a heterosexual I feel inspired every time a pretty lady passes my way. I enjoy her passage like I do the Seurat mural at the Metropolitan Museum of Art. I don’t act on it, because I am with someone. Looking, smiling, or telling a chick I don’t like her new bangs because it hides her eyes – that isn’t objectification. That’s the beginning to circle of life. Before a baby is born, a woman has to take a hot one, or a hot few. Unless it’s a turkey baster, a dude has to talk to this lady and convince her he isn’t a rapist. He also has to prove he can support himself and her and show willingness to go through the rest of his life a neutered adult.
The media objectifies everyone: Men, Woman, Immigrants, Gays, Whites, Blacks, Native Americans etc. A recent survey found that a quarter of British men between the ages of 20 and 30 prefer to have sex with the lights off…because they’re ashamed of their bodies. Part of the whole men feeling ashamed is due to the type of guys portrayed in the media.
An Example of Sexual Objectification
I had a Brazilian Co-worker named Maria*. She could have been an Amazon; a mythic Amazonian who didn’t amputate a breast to be a better archer. She was the definition of voluptuousness. She decided to stay clothed in LuLulemon attire after lunch time yoga class was over. She shut down the job. Even my female co-worker couldn’t help staring. We all even talked about it during lunch. Long story short, a janitor told her she was looking sexy and he wanted to take her out to dinner once he got off his shift. He was objectifying her and had to attend an unpaid harassment seminar. All that told me is that objectification is often times only reserved for dudes a chick’s not into.
Ladies as I see, it we are all objectified. We are all drones lost in a vast bureaucratic machine. This machine draws it’s power from exploiting socio-cultural differences. Once polarized to an extreme, we can be influenced towards acting a certain way (buying a certain product or ideology.) As always this is how I see it, this isn’t representative of how things are in their entirety. I am not asking you looking for fodder to start arguments but I just want to hear from you. Share. Tell me your story.