MrMary on Why Homophobia Hurts Heterosexuals & Planet Earth

In today’s world the close-minded believe that sexual preference can be  grouped into two categories: righteous and vile. People like me work to promote equality and celebrate difference. This is one of many stories.”


It’s weird how many heterosexual guys live in fear that something they do or did might appear to others as gay. To give you an example, in my early 20’s I wanted to study Brazilian Jujitsu. An acquaintance of mine at the time pejazzlingadvised against it because grappling with sweaty guys looked “gay”. Turns out there are a lot of things, unbeknownst to me, that were gay: wearing skinny jeans, eating healthy (especially consuming exotic grains like quinoa), pejazzling, and my favorite liking the song Moves Like Jagger.

The main reason I find this weird is that gay men don’t live in fear that they will do something that will appear heterosexual. They don’t for example eat steak, bench-press, squat unless its onto a dick…, or restore old muscle cars and say “no hetero” afterwards. Because masculinity is in crisis and we have no idea how to either define or celebrate it in the current milieu of our global culture, we use all sorts of terms and bigoted behavior to police it. Every guy has one friend who hides to sing Miley Cyrus’s Wrecking Ball because doing it in the company of his male friends is “seriously gay”. The comedian Bill Burr sums it up perfectly in the first three minutes of this following sketch

But there is Hope

Historically human beings are quite selfish in their outlook. If homophobic people only knew there was a benefit to be had in letting go of their homophobia the world will be a better place. I have done copious research on how foregoing homophobia benefits  lives. Here are my most compelling reasons/cases:

Better Sex

“Steve”  loved his girlfriend “Micah” very much but didn’t have the heart to tell her that after being on the receiving end of oral sex his dick would look like a dog’s mangled chew-toy. All that changed when “Steve’s” girlfriend became friends with Derrick, an openly gay coworker at her office at the office Christmas party. Four glasses of champagne into the holiday conversation  Steve’s girlfriend was egregiously armed with tips/instructions. Steve’s friends have barely seen him and the few times they do he looks depleted. Last I heard Steve’s friends were chipping in  together to buy protein powder for him at GNC. Take Home Message: Accepting others and  being open minded enriches our personal relationships

gays more eco-friendly & Advocates of Social Change

Here’s the breakdown:

  • 55 percent of LGBT adults vs. 33 percent of straight adults say they care a lot about green issues
  • 48 vs. 25 percent consider the environment when shopping
  • 45 vs. 27 percent highly value a political candidate’s stance on green issues
  • 25 vs. 17 percent use the environment as a factor when considering a potential employer

Not just with climate change, but gays are more open-minded about supporting social change and upholding civil rights. How can this not be a good thing? Furthermore for me none of the gay people I know try to sell me any religious propaganda.

As opposed to Priests who Fuck Kids, Gay People can make great parents

(This pic is of two gay dads kordalenkaleb raising 3 kids, I think they look like a lovely happy family)

Think of it like this, having kids is a serious decision. You may think that this is common sense but how many children were born because someone on Spring Break was too drunk to pull out and finished in or on the sperm dumpster designated spot. According to a study published in 2011— in 2006, 49% of pregnancies were unintended—a slight increase from 48% in 2001. How many of those unwanted kids find good homes where they will be loved and cared for? Did you know that on any given day, there are approximately 400,000 children in out-of-home care in the United States. During the last year about 650,000 children spent some time in out-of-home care in the United States. In 2011, 11 percent of the children (over 26,000) exiting foster care aged out of the system. Research has shown that teens aging out of the system are highly likely as adults to experience homelessness, poor health, unemployment, incarceration, and other poor outcomes.

The Reality

2012-new-york-city-gay-pride-paradeSeriously now. I believe that what someone does in the privacy of their bedroom is none of my business unless I’ve been given both the invite and OK to be at the front end of the women in an Eiffel Tower, and there is an agreement of no eye contact.

It is a shame that we cannot just accept that not everyone will see the world like us and express themselves in the ways we choose. I am kind of disgusted that we  have to find reasons why we should be nice to or befriend someone who bleeds when they are cut, or feels the pain of hunger when they haven’t eaten or loss when someone they love has past, because of a different sexual orientation. Did we really need scientific studies to tell us that gay and lesbian parents are as fit and capable as heterosexual parents, and that their children are as psychologically healthy and well-adjusted as children reared by heterosexual parents? Granted when I get off the train and I see a guy with angel wings and fury boots in an I love Cock T-shirt ( it has a rooster on it not the word cock)  I giggle a little but that’s because I normally dont see that and the work cock sounds funny to me.




  1. A very powerful manifesto on equality, my blogging buddy! You’ve definitely identified a few of the reasons for homophobia in today’s society. Terrific job! Thank you!


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