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According to my non personally dogged- out female friends generally speaking , most men do not want to look past the possibility of sexual activity to really get to know a women. Supposedly like the Lycans in the Underworld series of movies, at heart we (men) are rabid dogs that cannot resist a bitch in heat. Just for the sake of arguing I took-up the opposite point only to annoy my friend. I argued specifically that dogs can resist females in heat, that why Bob Barker was so big on Spaying and Neutering dogs on the Price is Right. Society and parents do a great job of emasculating guys. Eventually she caught on and pressed me to give my real answer.
The Answer of Answers
I told my friend that relationships now are only symbols, in and of themselves they are devoid of meaning as evidenced by the divorce rate. It’s not that people either male or female are unwilling to look past a persons idiosyncrasies, rather rarely do they make it past the image of the person they have created and projected on to the scenes of their day to day existence.
I think the person we are is perfect, all of us alive now in the moment contribute significantly to reality, whatever we may experientially discover that to b. However we are conditioned both to not see things as they are and to be estranged from an experience of what it is we are. So in many ways we don’t see where is our place, our niche, we continue on sometimes without a sense of purpose.
I used to work at a beautiful place and they had Cherry trees, and it was really a site to behold when they bloomed in early spring. Each blossom on that tree was perfect, each and unique each existed its moment in time and then left. That sounds very Zen but fuck it.
As always whenever I speak straight without wise-acreing, without the dick/pussy/flatulence jokes I get crickets, meaning a profound silence so deep one catch the sound of last summer’s crickets chirping away. I think that is why when I do feel the need to speak I generally make subversive comments, jokes`- at least we share a laugh rather just silence. Plus if anyone gets what I’m saying we have the added bonus of having something to talk about. I told her some line from a poem, made a joke and quickly changed the conversation.
Different degrees of domination and servitude
are what you know as love.
But love is different
it arrives complete -
just there -
like the moon at the window.
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